Posts by Emily Ross
Why Some People Have Low Libido — and Are Still Perfectly Healthy
Many people quietly wonder whether low desire means something is wrong with them. Sexual medicine specialists say otherwise. This article explores why low libido is normal for many healthy adults, the important distinction between asexuality and low libido, and how to make peace with your own unique relationship to desire — without shame or pressure to change.
Body Gratitude: An Underrated Form of Self-Care
We live in a culture that teaches us to improve our bodies before we appreciate them. But positive psychology research reveals that body gratitude — the simple practice of thanking your body for what it does rather than judging how it looks — may be one of the most transformative and underrated forms of self-care available to us.
How to Build Your Own Wellness Ritual
Building a wellness ritual does not require a complete life overhaul. With guidance from mindfulness teachers, this piece explores how small, sensory, repeatable practices — even just ten minutes of daily self care — can become anchors of presence and gentleness in an overstretched life. The key is not discipline. It is listening to what your body already knows it needs.
How to Sit With Your Desire Lows Without Self-Blame
Desire is not constant — it ebbs and flows with the rhythms of your body, your stress, your life. When low libido phases arrive, the instinct to self-blame can feel automatic. But sex therapists say the most healing response is not to fix yourself, but to sit with the quiet and meet it with compassion. This piece explores how.
Stress and Desire: Why Exhaustion Kills Your Libido
When life becomes an endless cycle of obligations and fatigue, desire is often the first thing to quietly disappear. Neuroscience reveals this is not a personal failing but a protective biological response. Understanding the relationship between chronic stress, cortisol, and libido offers a compassionate path back to feeling whole — and wanting — again.
Body Image: How to Be Intimate When You Don’t Like Your Body
Body image and intimacy are deeply connected, yet rarely discussed with honesty. When self-criticism takes over during vulnerable moments, it is not vanity — it is a nervous system response. With insights from body-positive coaches, this piece explores how to stay present in your body during closeness, even when that body feels like the last place you want to be.
After Eighteen Years Together, We Relearned How to Pay Attention
After eighteen years of marriage, David and his wife Claire had become expert co-managers of a busy household — efficient, kind, and completely on autopilot. A quiet confession over Saturday toast set them on a journey to rediscover the attention they'd stopped giving each other, and the small, surprising intimacy of being truly seen again.
Is Self-Pleasure Healthy? A Medical Perspective
Is self-pleasure actually healthy? We explore this deeply personal question through a medical lens, drawing on urological expertise and sexual wellness research to separate inherited shame from scientific reality — and offer gentle, practical ways to build a kinder relationship with your own body.
Is It Normal to Have a Higher or Lower Libido?
Sexual desire is one of the most personal aspects of being human, yet most of us quietly wonder whether what we feel is normal. Developed with insights from sexual medicine specialists, this piece explores why libido differences exist, what science reveals about the spectrum of desire, and how to meet your own patterns with curiosity instead of judgment.
How to Listen to Your Body’s Signals: A Sex Therapist’s Guide to Body Awareness
Your body speaks a language most of us were never taught to understand. With guidance from sex therapists and somatic experts, this piece explores the quiet practice of body awareness — how tuning into physical signals can deepen self-knowledge, strengthen intimate connections, and transform the way you care for yourself from the inside out.